Feet – Magic Moments – Preserving Memories – Picture to Ponder – v8-5

by Sheila Finkelstein on January 26, 2012

Today’s issue of Picture to Ponder is revision of Issue 108, May 24, 2005, when I was doing four issues a week. You’ll see, as you look below, that the subject of today’s featured photograph is my feet in my late, beloved husband Sam’s lap, as he used my legs for a “table” on which to write. I’m thinking there is some reason, the reminder of this photo came up for me this week, so I’m going with my gut and using it and the story.

Feet of Sheila Finkelstein in the lap of Sam FinkelsteinSam was the original photographer in the family. See B&W Photos. If he were alive today, we would be celebrating his 80th birthday this coming Sunday, January 29th.

Given so much of who I am today comes out of our 47-year loving marriage, his support of my ongoing, changing interests and our ultimate combined areas of activity, it seems fitting that we honor him here today. For, in effect, you, who appreciate Picture to Ponder, are also indirectly benefiting from his contribution to me/us.

Today’s Photo Story
The photo of my feet in Sam’s lap, as he rests a notebook on my legs while writing, was one of those totally unplanned actions and photos. I was interviewing him for my Artist-of-the-Month column in our community newsletter and doing my own note taking as I rested my feet. (See INTERVIEW, if you are curious about the article and learning more about him.)

Those of you who have been subscribing for some time, know Sam had been afflicted with Parkinson’s Disease. The most challenging consequence from which he suffered was his oftentimes inability to verbalize his thoughts, much of the time struggling to get his words out. I generally got even more frustrated with this than he and would often simply say, “Forget it!”

In order to do the article though, I needed the information, so I suggested he write it down. My legs became the “perfect” table, since my feet were already in his lap.

We peacefully sat, each doing our own writing, when I glanced up and was suddenly “taken with the scene.” I naturally went for the camera and we were fortunately able to recreate the positions and carry on naturally as I started photographing.

Sam’s spontaneous humor kicked in when we looked at the photos later. His first comment on seeing this one was, “I always wanted to be a podiatrist!” (Not so; simply joking.) What might have ordinarily been a very agitating time turned into one of peace and pleasure, one that even today, seven years later brings smiles as I revist the photo and the memory.

Self-Reflecting Queries –
As I look back, when Picture to Ponder first started it did have questions integrated into each issue. Sometime in June, I separated them out to be in a Self-Reflecting Queries section. In May 2005 I asked:

“Where in your life can you look at things from a totally different point of view?

Where can you bring play into them? And, is your camera handy, as well as your pen and paper?”

Interesting how the questions have been consistent over the seven plus years, wouldn’t you agree?

AND, for this particular issue where I’m honoring Sam and the relationship we had, I invite you to look at a relationship in your life. Find one particular time that you can look back on that brings back memories of peaceful and loving communication. What elements made it so?

Now I invite you to go one step further and pay attention in the next few days to a situation which has deep love and communication as an integral part of it, one that you can continue to preserve and take into the future. How will you do that?

And, if you are up to a great challenge, observe something happening with a negative charge. Then stop and see what kind of shift you can make to turn it, too, into a positive.

Lastly, if you are willing, please share it with us in the COMMENTS below. As always have fun with the photos and queries.

{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

Paula D'Andrea January 26, 2012 at 10:53 pm

What a beautiful love you’ve had Sheila!
Just tickles your toes 🙂
Thanks for sharing, ♥ Paula D’Andrea.


Sheila Finkelstein January 26, 2012 at 11:19 pm

Thanks so much for your comments, Paula. I’m added smiling at your “tickles your toes.” Another subscriber just emailed me “I’m curious about your toes………..”

Not quite sure what she meant. At least no one’s commented on the bunions, yet 🙂


Andee Losben January 27, 2012 at 8:01 am

Wow Aunt Sheila, I knew it was Uncle Samuel’s birthday this weekend, but I can’t believe he would have been 80…well I know he was 7 yrs younger than Daddy, but still…

I guess I keep thinking of him as my friend and special uncle who took me places and opened up my eyes to new things and sent me packages of foreign dolls from Europe when he was stationed there and I was little.

It’s funny, but I remember my parents thinking he was old already at 28 to get married! Anyway, take care and thanks for the photos…I looked at all the b&w ones and found one of Mazel…that made me happy. He was the best dog ever! (as Uncle Samuel was the best uncle!)

Love, Andee


Sheila Finkelstein January 27, 2012 at 8:05 am

Andee, thanks so much for sharing these memories. I know you had a very special feeling for him which you’ve shared in the past. It was great to be reminded of them once again. Your Uncle Sam was the “best” all around.


Maria Salomão-Schmidt January 27, 2012 at 2:25 pm

Beautiful Sheila!

What a gorgeous blog you have! I soooooo love that I came by for a visit!

Great big hugs,


Sheila Finkelstein January 27, 2012 at 3:47 pm

Thank you so much, Maria. Your acknowledgment is greatly appreciated. Your “What will YOUR rive of tears teach YOU” posting today on your blog http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com/2012/01/27/what-will-your-river-or-tears-teach-you/ was quite moving, as I commented there. Your message on “BEing in the moment” is reflective of a lot of the Photography and Transformation messages here, albeit not usually with the intensity of what you are going through.
Love, Peace and Fully BEing, Sheila


Peggy McAloon November 21, 2015 at 6:39 pm

I love this video of my husband and our two little rescue pups – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0QGdelHbqjE. We had just gotten the smaller of the two to help be a guide dog for the other one who is totally blind. She was rescued from a puppy mill, and had no idea how to act on a leash. What I love most about this video, is that it shows that the man I married has as kind a heart as my grandfather Tom Burton had. That means everything to me. I’ve seen abuse and no one should ever have to suffer.


Sheila Finkelstein November 21, 2015 at 8:10 pm

Beautiful, Peggy. Brought a smile to my face to see Mike’s smile of appreciation at the end. I assume you have plenty of videos also with him talking? One thing I really miss is the sound of Sam’s voice.

I never thought to record him or any of our conversations. I was capable of doing it with different telecourse audio programs I used… long before today’s easy smartphones and more. That’s one reason I’m such a stand for technology for seniors…actually for anyone, of any age, who resists because they are fearful.

Thanks for sharing.


Bonni November 22, 2015 at 6:49 am

Sheila this was a beautiful moment you captured in words as well as pictures


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